What do you do when your dog simply can’t stand being apart from you—following you from room to room, waiting outside the bathroom door, and practically dialing emergency services when you leave the house?
Well, I know exactly what that’s like. I’m the proud owner of a German Shorthaired Pointer rescue who used to suffer from extreme separation anxiety. Even stepping out for a few minutes would send her into a frenzy of stress.
Recognizing the Signs of Separation Anxiety
If you walked into my home a few years ago, you’d see the damage—literally. Doors chewed, frantic paw prints on the floor, a dog panting and pacing in a full-blown panic. Though she never had indoor accidents, many anxious dogs do. These are all telltale signs of separation anxiety, and they’re heartbreaking to witness.
The good news? Things have improved dramatically. While she’ll never be the kind of dog who can be left alone for long periods (and really, no dog should be), I can now run errands, pick up the kids, or even enjoy an evening out without returning to chaos.
Managing Separation Anxiety: A Step-by-Step Approach
There’s no quick fix for separation anxiety—it takes time, patience, and consistency. But the rewards are well worth the effort. Below are the methods that helped us make real progress:
1. Crate Training: Creating a Safe Space
Crates can be a game-changer. For us, the crate became her sanctuary—a familiar, secure space where she felt safe. I never used it as a punishment, and it’s always accessible to her during the day. Over time, she started choosing it as her resting spot even when I was home.
If you’re new to crate training, start slow. Leave the crate open and make it cozy with their bed or blanket. Once they’re comfortable going in and out freely, begin closing the door for short periods—just seconds at first. Gradually extend the time, always ensuring your dog remains calm. If your dog starts crying, shorten the interval. It took us weeks before she could handle more than 30 seconds, but persistence paid off.
Tips like leaving toys or treats didn’t work for my dog during moments of panic—extreme anxiety can override interest in food. But every dog is different, so it’s worth experimenting.
2. Natural Supplements and Calming Aids
I paired crate training with natural calming supplements, and I definitely saw benefits. My go-to was Overby Farm Quiet Moments soft chews, which contain thiamine and L-tryptophan—ingredients known to ease tension. At first, I gave her three a day. They didn’t “fix” the anxiety but helped take the edge off. Now, we rarely need them.
Another option is Sanper 2, a homeopathic remedy for dogs with traumatic pasts, like rescues. I also tried CalmXtra, a liquid herbal tincture made from valerian, skullcap, oat, and passionflower. It’s fast-acting and ideal for particularly stressful moments like fireworks or vet visits. Just a heads up—it may cause a little drowsiness.
Finding the right supplement can involve some trial and error. If one doesn’t work, don’t give up—try another.
3. Use Technology: Dog Monitor App
If you’re worried while away, the Dog Monitor app is a fantastic tool. Install it on two devices—say, your iPad and iPhone. Set one up to record your dog and watch from the other. You can even speak through it to calm them down in real-time. It’s reassuring to check in and know how they’re coping in your absence.
4. Scent and Sound Tricks
Though I haven’t personally tested this method, I came across a fascinating approach from dog trainer John Rogerson. Here’s what he suggests:
- Shut your dog in a room where they can’t see you leave.
- Place an item of your worn clothing just outside the door—your scent offers comfort.
- Play a familiar sound (vacuuming, your voice, etc.) on repeat to trick them into thinking you’re still around.
It’s a clever method built on sensory cues—something dogs rely on heavily. If you try it, I’d love to hear how it goes!
Final Thoughts
These are just a few strategies that have worked for me and others in managing separation anxiety in dogs. With summer holidays and travel plans ahead, it’s even more important to ensure our pets feel secure—especially when new carers are involved.
The journey isn’t quick or easy, but it is possible. With patience, compassion, and a bit of creativity, you can help your dog feel more comfortable when alone—and reclaim a little peace of mind for yourself, too.
